How you can change your life from Woe to Wow!
It’s another week, another four days until the weekend. And then whoops… it’s Monday again
Time has a very predictable habit of bringing the same days, the same months and the same years around again and again with outstanding regularity. We all know that it will be 365 (or every four years 366) days until Christmas Day, but yet despite the increasingly early arrival of the seasonal adverts and decorations it still seems to spring upon us like an expert player of Grandmother’s Footsteps “Whee I’m here and I win!”
I am 51 years old, I am sure there are people reading this much older and much wiser than I, but I am confident at this stage in my life to say that if you keep doing the same stuff every day then every day, and every month and every year will be the same too.
This is great if you are already living your perfect life. But are you? Really there is nothing at all you would like to change or improve?
If you prepare a light sponge cake and put it in the oven at 250 degrees for an hour I can predict you will get something like this.
It doesn’t matter how many times you do it in the hope that miraculously the cake will come out light and fluffy and ready for the application of whipped cream and homemade jam. It will continue to come out hard, burned and completely inedible.
Life is exactly the same. If you put in the same ingredients and conditions the outcome will be the same. There is no point in hoping for a miracle that will suddenly transform you from fed up, in debt and miserable to content, comfortable and happy overnight. You have to change the cooking temperature, the ingredients, maybe even the oven. You might even consider baking something completely different.
So why is it that you don’t go on cremating the cake but you do continue to get up every morning and do the same stuff day after day, read the same books, hang out with the same people, hold the same views, have the same routines and then wonder why you aren’t getting any closer to your dreams?
- If it ain’t broke don’t fix it – RUBBISH. Just because it works at something doesn’t mean it’s the something you want it to do.
- Not knowing how to do something is fine – just go and learn. Nobody was born with a zillion skills, we all had to learn how to use the potty.
- Your life is nobody’s responsibility but your own. If you don’t like the way it’s turning out then you have to be the one to pull the plug and start again, don’t play the victim and blame everybody else/the government/God/your parents/your children/your boss etc.
- Every behaviour has a payoff, that’s why you keep doing what you are doing. Analyse the immediate payoff and set it against the future payoff. Which is greater? Which is more important? Are you losing out in the long term because you go for the short term gain?
- There is no universal reality. Reality is just your perception of what is going on around you. You can change that perception.
- You cannot change anything you do not acknowledge. This is perhaps the hardest change of all, the one that demands that you take a good hard look at yourself and acknowledge that you are who you are. You are never going to be perfect, none of us are, but we can sure as hell make the most of the gifts that we have, minimise our flaws or even turn them to our advantage. But only, ONLY if we have taken the time to be honest with ourselves first.