1 January

Welcome to the New Year. The time of resolutions, new beginnings, plans and in some cases hangovers.

I don’t do resolutions, the very word implies to me something that has to be achieved or overcome. I don’t want to start the New Year already feeling overburdened about all the things I have to do. Instead I do dreams. What do I desire most in the world? What do I really want to do, have, create in the coming year?

Now that may sound just like a resolution to you, but stay with me for a moment. A resolution might be to go to the gym twice a week, give up alcohol for January and lose two stone. I don’t know about you but I can feel the weight of that resolution pulling me down already. A dream would be to feel fit and healthy (note to feel not to be).

Unlike resolutions which have to be kept as if they were chained to you. A dream needs to be nurtured, fed and loved. This is how I would feed this particular dream.

  • I’d find some pictures of me when I was healthier and fitter than I am now.
  • I’d write an affirmation. “I feel fit, healthy and full of life”.
  • I’d imagine how I would feel, what I would do, what I would wear.

I would feed that dream every day, first thing in the morning and last thing at night. In time I would say no to the chocolate biscuit, I would pass on the glass of wine, I would take the dogs on longer walks and fit in an extra yoga session. Your mind wants you to achieve your dreams; it is less interested in frog marching you to the gym.

So today, find a place where you can be alone for a while. Put on some music if you like, burn a scented candle, wrap up in your favourite blanket and dream. Remember you are not setting resolutions; things that you have do and tick off. You are listing your dreams; the things that make your heart fly and fulfil those yearnings deep inside you. Ignore the little voice that says “don’t be ridiculous you can’t do that”. What does he know?